It is understandable that you want your wedding day to be the best day of your life and one that you will remember forever (for the right reasons!). However, if you allow yourself to become stressed out by the arrangements and the obsessive need for everything to go to plan, you could be in danger of becoming what has commonly been referred to as ‘bridezilla’.
It is important that your big day goes without a hitch, but you will want to look back on the weeks and months leading up to your wedding day fondly. All too often, brides realise how awful they have been after their wedding, and they cringe every time they think of how they acted in the run-up. If you want to avoid becoming bridezilla, there are a few signs you need to look out for. If they are familiar to you, it may be time to take a step back and relax; after all, you do not want to fall out with lifelong friends or family members.
Remember What Your Wedding is About
It is easy to get caught up in the excitement of planning your big day and wanting everything to be perfect. However, try to remember that your wedding is about you and your fiancé committing to each other; it is really not about the cost or the fancy items. Most of your guests just want to share your big day and do not care how much you have spent. As long as you and your fiancé are happy, that is all that matters.
Be Sensitive to the Feelings of Others
If you have found that everyone else seems tetchy or short with you, you need to ask yourself if they have a problem or if you are the problem. If you are suddenly having arguments with loved ones that you previously had a very good relationship with, it could be that your constant wedding talk could be rubbing them up the wrong way.
While your loved ones will want to do everything they can to help and support you, you need to be sensitive to their feelings too. Your vision for your wedding may be all you can see at the moment, but other people may have entirely relevant ideas and contributions to make. While you do not have to accept them, you should consider listening to what your loved ones have to say.
Give Your Bridesmaids a Say
It is entirely acceptable to want everything to go well on the big day, but it is not acceptable to comment on the physical appearance of your bridal party. You should not be telling your bridesmaids to lose weight or not allowing them to have a say in the style of dress they will be wearing.
The best way to keep everyone happy is to give your bridesmaids a say in their outfits. While you may have your heart set on a particular colour, there are many different styles of bridesmaids dress to choose from and some will be more flattering than others, depending on the body shape of the wearer.
Think about the feelings of your bridesmaids and ask them for their opinion before you order a specific dress for them. You can choose a number of options that are within your budget and then reach a compromise on the style that suits everyone best. At the end of the day, do you really want your bridesmaids looking unhappy in your wedding photographs because you have insisted on choosing a dress that does nothing for their figures?
Relax and Enjoy This Time
Your wedding day should be a one-time event, and you should be able to look back on it with happy memories. If you are in danger of becoming a bridezilla, you need to relax and start enjoying your wedding planning. Remember that everything will go much more smoothly if your support group are there for you.
If they are starting to avoid your phone calls, it could be that you are becoming bossy and obsessive. Your family and friends will undoubtedly be happy for you, but you need to remember that while your wedding day may be the most important thing in your life right now, it may not be theirs. Evaluate your behaviour and start to enjoy your time now – you will (hopefully) not be in the position to do this again.